Fetishes    

If you are in any way aware of the history of sexuality in the West I'm sure you will agree it is often a tragic story of myths, fantasy and fables.  Under the shadow of Victorian society and its repressive sexual demands we are still struggling to shake the shackles of its curse to this day.  Do yourself a favour and rent the video on the life of Alfred Kinsey.  It tells the true story of the man "Kinsey" and one of the largest sex surveys ever done.  Set in the early 1900s it is an enlightening expose of the nature of sexuality in America at that time.

According to many Christians, the idea of fetishes or sexual expression which is a bit off centre (what is centre anyway) is often deemed inappropriate, wrong or just plain sinful.  Often these people fail to realise that as human beings we are all different.  Unfortunately, fetishes like bondage have been stigmatised making people who fall into this category feel guilty for no reason.  If two people consent to a brand of sexual expression they are happy with, so what.  Of course there are hundreds probably even thousands of fetishes or types of sexual expression. 

Unfortunately the variety of sexual expression can cause immense marital problems.  This is often the case when one partner is unwilling or repulsed by the other partner's desire to express themselves.  I'm not sure what the solution is when this occurs, but I do know that bringing up children in the dark regarding sex is dangerous and can make these problems worse.