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We
have Speed Dating on Monday nights so that if you have broken up
over the weekend you can come along on a Monday night to find a
new partner / lover / relationship straightaway - and of course
you get the results on the night.
Numbers
are limited to the first 12 girls and the first 12 guys who book.
Arrival time is 7.00pm for 7.15pm start and the dating goes till
8.45pm. Buy your own drinks at the hotel. Bring a pen. It may be a
good idea to make up some of your own questions, about 5 to 10 to
ask although there will be a questions
sheet provided for you to work off which you are welcome to
keep.
How
it works:
This
is different – you won’t have read this sort of thing before –
this is for the real spontaneous fun - and serious – people.
Players beware unless you both are - then all is OK.
Our
system is simple. Everyone has a number: all the girls get to be
even and all the guys are odd as we say. During the evening you
simply write down on as many slips as you like the numbers of the
ones you fancy and would like to follow up on. Your number goes in
the left circle, in the Your Number circle, and their number goes
in the right circle, the Their Number circle. Please also put both
your name and their name in the respective circles as this makes
it easier for me at the end and you will remember the names
better. At the end I collect everyone’s slips and separate out
the two way matches where for example 5 chose 8 and 8 chose 5.
When we have two reciprocal selections such as those we have a
match. For maximum impact upon both of you your selections should
not be discussed. You should keep them secret because then when
you do get a match, if you get a match, it makes quite an
impression on you. And of course on our nights you get your
matches straightaway at the end so you can immediately make plans
as to what to do next. Since you’ve both declared a sincere
interest in getting to know each other better it tends to be a
very powerful process especially when you get immediate results.
If you have discussed picking each other the result may not have
as much impact upon you and is less than what it could have been
if it had been totally pure so keep it discreet. You can tell them
to pick you but if that is said to you don’t let the other
person know if you actually have picked them, although you could
tell them to pick you too but don’t say if you actually have
done so and don’t pick them unless you really mean it. When you
get your match/s start making immediate plans or have some plans
in mind. Either stay back together for drinks, or have an instant
dinner date there and then or go off to get to know each other
better as you have both picked each other and want each other.
A
big attraction with our system where you get your matches on the
night is that for some like-minded people who want their matches
straightaway this allows them to go off together and spend the
night together and I encourage you to do so if you are so minded
as it a wonderful way to get to know someone intimately. If you
have it in mind to spend the night with someone you really fancy
who has matched with you you might say “if we match I have left
the whole night free to spend quality time with the person who
really really likes me so that we can really become acquainted as
intensive friends – that will prove to you I am happy to show I
really like you if you are ready and ready to do the same for me”
or “ to show you I am serious if you pick me and I really really
like you I am happy and ready to spend the night with to show you
I am serious – but first I have a few little conditions and
disqualifications which I will discuss later” (see below).
It
is however suggested that if you are going to spend the night with
your match you should beforehand lock in what you are going to do
together on the Friday and Saturday nights following or over the
weekend. It is advisable to secure these mini-commitments first
(so maybe stop off for coffee) so your night together will be
completely honourable and not just an deceptive one night stand.
If your match will not commit to Friday and Saturday you may have
just a player and a time waster and someone not really available
so you should reconsider if you are going to spend the night with
them. You will feel much more relaxed if Friday and Saturday are
locked in the diary – yours and theirs – so bring it with you
and expect them to bring theirs and write the dates in too.
Of
course, if you don’t want to spend the night with them you just
say “that won’t be happening, I don’t do that” or “not
tonight, soon. I want to meet you again for coffee first and then
we will plan the weekend so bring your diary and we’ll do all
that first, so just be happy to wait a while. When everything’s
in the diary, yours too, I’ll know you are serious - just wait
for the weekend, honey, it will be really good - you don’t have
anyone else, do you, so you’ll be with me, all weekend and on
that weekend before anything else happens we’ll plan the next
week out too.” Remember the purpose of each date is to arrange
the next 2 or so dates and when you have those mini-commitments
you can proceed to other activities. (Hint: get them to book the
restaurant for a dinner on the weekend in their name (ring the
restaurant to check that they have) so that if they don’t turn
up the restaurant can chase them for the money. If you’re really
game get a deposit off them by saying “guys always double cross
me so give me $100 for the dinner and then I’ll know you are
serious. If you didn’t read what David wrote then you miss out
tonight honey, don’t make the same mistake next time. I was so
hot for you tonight but you’re starting to blow it. Us girls
always do our little tests so we get the best and when we’re
sold then WOW ! Pass all the little tests and I’ll make you so
glad you did. Impress me and make me happy and you’ll be very
very happy.” Have fun. Of course always remember to put the
requisite precautionary steps in place such as mini-commitments
and have ready the disqualification options and of course remember
this is only for those who are comfortable with quick decisions.
Failure to do so could constitute recklessness. Many people like
more time but if the arousal is there and mutual why block the
transmissions and not proceed? If you want more ideas ask me. I
have some more real shockers for the girls to use which I can’t
print here, two or three in particular when you have some time).
However,
be advised, with our system although you get your match/s on the
night you can get more than one match and then you may have an
interesting problem but one that is worth having and solving –
and it seems to take many by complete surprize – “two or three
or more matches, what do I do now??” You will have to be a
little more discreet in some cases and if doing the overnight
thing work out how you’re going to navigate it. Some won’t
mind or care but a good idea is just to say you‘re going to stay
back with the group and keep chatting and maybe have dinner as
about half usually do. You will have to play it by ear if you
don’t want it known that you have more than one match - you will
have to be more diplomatic. If you only get one match then things
are more straightforward but more good matches are always worth
having. A suggestion is to get all the mobile phone numbers and
leave and five minutes later ring your favourite and tell them to
meet you at a certain place or their place to chat and plan and
then go on for the night - again have somewhere in mind.
When
you achieved a satisfactory result why not email me your story of
what happened with any advice and I’ll post it.
You
can make as many selections as you like and you can even put down
“all” if you want to discover all the ones with very good
taste who chose you - as even if you aren't attracted to them you
may have overlooked some people in making your choices and so may
miss out on making some good friends who are greatly impressed
with you. It's a nice way to start a friendship or a relationship
as you both have made a declaration for each other and it can be a
very powerful process. Even if you are not greatly attracted to
someone who has chosen you they may, as a good new-found friend,
recommend you to some of their friends, one of whom may just prove
to be the right one for you - so be open to possibilities.
What
to do if you get a match: swap phone numbers, arrange a coffee
date within days straightaway, (have an idea as to where in mind),
stay back and have a drink or meal together or go off together.
The keen ones don't have dinner beforehand but have dinner with
their match, who hopefully, in anticipation, hasn't had dinner
either: an instant dinner date! If you get more than one match
this may not work – but that creates an interesting problem for
you so just stay back with the group and organize matters
discreetly.
A
recent email and it’s response which may be of interest:
Comment:
Speed dating to me is the event that can be the most anxious
making out
of
all your events ... especially if it does not go well. To me the
restaurant
event is not stressful compared to speed dating.
Response:
Many women have described the restaurant nights as
"non
confrontational".
Speed dating of course is, it is the embodiment of it.
No
wonder the people who tend to come to each tend to be
fairly
different.
How
might it not go well?, no matches? You can still check
on
secondaries
or have me send a special email the next day to any of the
guys.
New wording about this is is now up on the speed dating site.
Then
again it may be good that it "does not go well" because
to get a
match
you have to make a selection, at least one, and if there's no
one
there
you fancy you would not pick anyone and so, of course, you
would
get
no matches and you would know that that was happening so in
that
case
you would not worry that it "did not go well".
WHAT
TO DO IF YOU GET A MATCH
What
to do if you get a match: swap phone numbers, arrange a coffee
date within days straightaway, (have an idea of where in mind),
stay back and have a drink together. The keen ones don't have
dinner beforehand but have dinner with their match, who hopefully,
in anticipation, hasn't had dinner either: an instant dinner date!
If you get more than one match this may not work so you are
advised just to swap phone numbers with your matches and stay back
and chat with the group and arrange to meet each match later.
At
this new venue you will be able to have an instant dinner date
with your new match as dining is open till 9.30 pm so you may have
a very interesting time - or you might just decide to have dinner
there so come hungry for love and food and be willing to encourage
interested parties to select you and have dinner with you there
and then or later. If you get just one match it is better to
continue on for an instant dinner date there and then or at least
swap phone numbers and have a drink together unless you or they
are in a hurry to leave.
For
more details and some interesting write ups on some recent nights
visit the special bonus website at Speed
dating and Matchmating Events website at mm.html.
Bookings
to David on 8214 8397 or 0419 605 365. To see up to the minute
real-time bookings for this event click
here. If numbers are low or are still building then book in
early and it will attract others to book in.
To
find on the map type the address at Concord type Clermont Ave
Concord into http://maps.google.com.au/
To get there by public transport
check out
www.131500.info.
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Work
off the question sheet, which you get to keep, or bring your own
questions or just chat on the night.
Room
for only the first 12 girls and first 12 guys.
Times:
Mondays: 7.00 – 8.15 pm.
Ring
David now on 8214 8397 or 0419 605 365 to book in.
For
other more discreet events on other nights of the week where you
can meet other people wanting to find new partners and friends
over dinner click here for
a summary of other events.
To
learn some dating skills and how to increase your chances of being
selected go to ft1dating.html
and
to
learn how to start a safe formal full on relationship from day one
of the relationship with a relationship agreement go to ft1ra.html
For
links to the major local Internet Dating websites with large
numbers of new people to meet where you can join for free and put
up a profile for free and receive email contacts for free click
here.
For
the very popular dinner events etc. in detail click
here
The
Love Lotto selection process central to our speed dating nights
allowing for the unique instant discovery of the matches on the
night is the intellectual property of David Murphy as of 2000 and
its design on the slips is copyright.
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AGES:
40-50 ***MONDAY
- SPEED DATING IN SYDNEY
Come
and find new friends and lovers at our new venue, Concord
Bowling Club, cnr Davidson Lane and Clermont Ave Concord:
Arrival by 6.30pm for 7pm start (formalities finish around 8.15
pm).
For
your $89 you get unlimited champagne plus finger food canapes.
Other Drinks at Club prices. Importantly you are notified of any
matches on the night and you have a 55% chance of receiving at
least one match !
AGES:
35-45 ***MONDAY
- SPEED DATING IN SYDNEY Come
and find new friends and lovers at our new venue, Concord
Bowling Club, cnr Davidson Lane and Clermont Ave Concord:
Arrival by 6.30pm for 7pm start (formalities finish around 8.15
pm). For your $89 you get unlimited champagne plus finger food
canapes. Other Drinks at Club prices. Importantly you are notified
of any matches on the night and you have a 55% chance of receiving
at least one match !
AGES:
45+ ***MONDAY
- SPEED DATING IN SYDNEY Come
and find new friends and lovers at our new venue, Concord
Bowling Club, cnr Davidson Lane and Clermont Ave Concord:
Arrival by 6.30pm for 7pm start (formalities finish around 8.15
pm).
For
your $89 you get unlimited champagne plus finger food canapes.
Other Drinks at Club prices. Importantly you are notified of any
matches on the night and you have a 55% chance of receiving at
least one match ! Easy
immediate parking.
AGES:
30-40 ***MONDAY
- SPEED DATING IN SYDNEY Come
and find new friends and lovers at our new venue, Concord
Bowling Club, cnr Davidson Lane and Clermont Ave Concord:
Arrival by 6.30pm for 7pm start (formalities finish around 8.15
pm).
For
your $29 you get unlimited champagne plus finger food canapes.
Other Drinks at Club prices. Importantly you are notified of any
matches on the night and you have a 55% chance of receiving at
least one match ! Easy
immediate parking.
